Have you ever asked anyone for their feedback on your attitude over one or more topics? It can be an enlightening experience.
You may think you are being positive and encouraging, but maybe under the surface, there is something else going on that is quite the opposite.
It can be difficult sometimes to recognise the conflict, hence having a helpful observer can be useful to alerting you of how your attitude comes across.
If you think you are positive and have a healthy attitude, but things are going awry, it could be useful to ask yourself some questions.
What are you thinking?
What is going on underneath those thoughts?
What is causing those deeper thoughts?
Is it fear? Is it something else – if so what?
What has to happen for change to occur?
You may be able to help yourself, or sometimes, a professional will be needed to access what is really going on and will help you to change.
When you have sorted out your deeper thoughts and feelings, and probably fears, then you will be ready to change your attitude from under the surface right the way through to your conscious self.
